Mindset Change

We can all feel negative from time to time.

I accept this can change from one day to the next.

More often than not, as soon as we feel positive and happy, before too long, we self-sabotage whether that is self-loathing or simply being overwhelmed by pure unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

No one can make us feel angry, guilty, or sad. It is 100% our choice to feel that way.

Only we can look on the dark side and focus on the negatives.

No one else, regardless of whether or not we’ve been let down or wronged, can make us feel anything. In a notebook, when you feel a negative emotion, write down the date and time. Also, events leading up to that negative feeling.

Example: my son recently didn’t get selected for his football team. Around an hour or so after hearing the news, I was enraged with anger and resentment. I realised that my vulnerable inner child was triggered and hijacked my thought patterns.

Subconsciously, I was back in the playground, not being picked as no one wanted me to be on their team. I felt rejected, unwanted, and alone.

As soon as I realised this, I instantly snapped out of it. My son is not me. Him not being selected shouldn’t cause my inner child to react.

We need to own our emotions, deal with them in isolation and not project on to others.

Against each negative diary entry, write a positive about yourself, counteracting sadness with happiness, negative with positive, disappointment with gratitude, etc.

Easier written than done but, the more often you do this, the greater your positive mindset will be.

Positive reinforcement, mindset change, empowerment, and mental resilience.